The ego uses a variety of predictable patterns because the basis of its thought system is judgment whose origin stems from sin, fear and guilt. Judgment is always one or another. As you perceive a brother through judgment, you will project and judge on that brother and soon you perceive the outcomes back. Once those results are perceived, you will use perception repeatedly to project and judge them a lot more.
Unfortunately, this uses both sides of the ego wrong mind and compounds the original error until the facts are well hidden. Handing over judgments for correction (forgiveness) stops the cycle.
Holy Relationships:
The ego uses special love and hate relationships, as well as specialness (being different), to keep the illusion of separation going. Usage of these kinds of relationships as cause, can be the ego mind as cause; and the result would be to continue separation between brothers because they are based on the original separation. Remember cause and effect: Your brain you select from, as cause, will result in the corresponding consequences (effect).
This is simply not about you needing to be alone or avoid relationships in life. It is, however, all about how you enter and use them within the mind.
The choice which will set you free is to choose to have your relationships be Holy Relationships. You must function as person practicing forgiveness in all of your relationships, even if you are the only one. It is “special” until you turn it “Holy.” To see another as a brother, a prerequisite to going home, holds true Perception which shines a light of truth you both. The ego cannot prevail against Oneness because it is not real.
Form and Content:
A Course in Miracles (ACIM) is quite clear that form does not matter. You’ll find nothing in ACIM about behavior so when you judge a brother on his or her behavior, that is the same side of the ego mind. They might be acting from the ego “wrong” mind; nevertheless, you are judging from the ego “right” mind. To the ego, one judgment is the same as any other.
What the Course says is that content matters. Content is the mind. ACIM concerns itself with you understanding that you can choose the Holy Spirit Right Mind as your internal Teacher thereby producing a different cause and effect.
What you or another does in form (behavior) will not matter. However listed below are two questions to consider:
When I acted, did I act from the Holy Spirit Right Mind? (Content)
Is my interpretation of my buddy from the Holy Spirit Right Mind? (Content)
You will not have peace if you don’t can answer “yes” to both. Choose again if you want to. It is never too late.
There is ONLY 1 of Us:
When you judge a brother, you’re using the ego mind as cause for that judgment to become real effect. That is why we emphasize that everything you see in another must be forgiven in yourself first. Here’s why: (1) You cannot see fault (judgment) in another unless you chose from that part of the split mind in the first place; (2) You cannot judge what you don’t already believe to be true since it is in line with the mind you chose from; and (3) Judgment about another is really a statement of the guilt retained in your thoughts from the original separation because you opting for to utilize the ego mind. It really is what your location is still holding onto fear and guilt instead of choosing correction (forgiveness) for the reality.
Absolutely anyone who turns up and provides you with a chance to heal your mind is a gift you need to use. Turn it right into a Holy Relationship. a course in miracles This is how you will return your personal mind to God, and how others eventually view it for themselves. Hold the light of forgiveness gives all minds a chance to create a different choice. Judge plus they run and hide further into darkness and error.
A Call for Love:
Attack is a conscious mind behavior predicated on projection, judgment and perception. The ego’s point is to protect separate identity and therefore, all attack is really a demand love, or forgiveness, which is joining. The more determined you are to know the truth about yourself and a brother, the more you’ll choose against the ego’s attacks and only correction (forgiveness) from the proper Mind.
Responding with love can mean many things and sometimes, it can even mean no response. Other times, you may want a boundary or to take some action. To respond with love, you absolutely must be practicing forgiveness and utilizing the Right Mind to show total attack and judgment. The Holy Spirit will provide you with a solution in the event that you completely turn compared to that Right Mind for help. “Completely” may be the key word.
Eventually you see no attack (error) occurred and that is to know the truth about you as well as your brother. There is no defense necessary (“defenselessness” on the Split Mind diagram). When you share your willingness never to see error, you have shared what you want to keep and learn on your own. What you share you find you have.
Sharing:
Sharing methods to allow yourself to give to another what you want them to possess. Your only reason behind doing this is because it is what you want to have for yourself. You’re teaching them what you would like to be yours. Teaching is instruction of ideas and principles. Do that and you may find you have it because you’ve literally said, “Give back if you ask me what I’ve taught you.”